Overcoming Vaginismus & Painful Sex with Jess Seitz — Key Takeaways
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Overcoming Vaginismus & Painful Sex with Jess Seitz
Francie Winslow44mSep 13, 2023
Watch the originalA biopsychosocial-plus-spirit approach — targeting the nervous system as the integrating link between mind, body, faith, and environment — resolved vaginismus in 3–4 months after 8 years of failed conventional treatment.
Key takeaways
8 years of vaginismus: doctors gaslighted, church blamed demons, therapist prescribed porn
8 years of vaginismus: doctors gaslighted, church blamed demons, therapist prescribed porn
- Jess was told to 'drink wine,' had hands slapped on stage at a healing prayer night, and a sex therapist recommended watching porn to learn arousal.
- No doctor ever followed up on her 'pain with intercourse' checkbox despite her marking it at every appointment for years.
Jess resolved 8-year vaginismus in 3–4 months after switching to a biopsychosocial nervous system approach
Jess resolved 8-year vaginismus in 3–4 months after switching to a biopsychosocial nervous system approach
- The shift came from applying the same chronic-pain model she used with complex regional pain syndrome patients — not a new medical intervention.
- Key change: self-compassion and non-judgmental processing of the 'tidal wave' of accumulated stress, which finally allowed pelvic floor relaxation.
Treating vaginismus like a sprained ankle — pure muscle rehab — is why pelvic floor therapy alone fails
Treating vaginismus like a sprained ankle — pure muscle rehab — is why pelvic floor therapy alone fails
- Jess, an OT, did everything correctly with dilators and PT for 4 years, reached the largest dilator, then clenched back down every time — because the nervous system root was untreated.
- Sympathetic (fight-or-flight) activation and pelvic floor relaxation are physiologically incompatible; arousal itself can trigger sympathetic response, causing dysfunction.
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In this video
- 1mIntro
- 3mWhat was it like being a virgin
- 8mHealing from sexual pain
- 14mCouples counseling
- 24mA light bulb
- 29mParadigm Shift
- 33mInterception
- 41mFree Consultation
- 42mPrayer
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