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Raising Kids With a Strong Reputation (Not People Pleasers) — Key Takeaways

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Raising Kids With a Strong Reputation (Not People Pleasers)

Be Courageous Ministry37mOct 20, 2026

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Ask your child directly: “What do people think when they hear your name?” — this reframes behavior as reputation-building and works for ages 5 and up.

Key takeaways

Don't expect fruit of the Spirit from an unsaved child

Don't expect fruit of the Spirit from an unsaved child

  • Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit; expecting it from an unregenerate child sets unrealistic expectations.
  • Parents should show the same compassion to unsaved children they'd show to any unbeliever.

Ask your child directly: "What do people think when they hear your name?"

Ask your child directly: "What do people think when they hear your name?"

  • Hearing their own name forces kids to evaluate their reputation from an outside perspective.
  • Hosts use this question with children as young as 8 to kick off character-building conversations.

Your own spiritual growth shapes your kids' friendship pool

Your own spiritual growth shapes your kids' friendship pool

  • Growing parents attract growing families; stagnant parents surround kids with similar stagnation.
  • Proverbs 13:20 cited: walking with the wise makes you wise, companions of fools suffer harm.

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In this video

  1. 1mIntroduction and Why Reputation Matters
  2. 2mSix-Point Agenda Overview
  3. 4mBuilding Good Character
  4. 8mSponsor: Provenex Vitamins
  5. 9mChoices Have Consequences
  6. 14mReputation vs. Identity
  7. 16mCareful with Your Words
  8. 19mHome Practice Shapes Outside Behavior
  9. 20mSponsor: CTC Math
  10. 20mChoosing Friends Wisely
  11. 24mThe Mic Drop Question and Family Reputation
  12. 26mAmbassadors of Christ
  13. 28mBeing Lights in Public
  14. 30mIntegrity Over Eye Service
  15. 31mPersecution vs. Sin's Consequences
  16. 33mProverbs 22:1 and a Good Name
  17. 35mProtecting Older Kids' Reputation

“If you're not tired of correcting your children, you're going to have a challenging future.”

— Charles Spurgeon (paraphrased by hosts)

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