What Miscarriage Is Like For Dads (And How To Navigate It) — Key Takeaways
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What Miscarriage Is Like For Dads (And How To Navigate It)
Abraham's Wallet55mAug 12, 2026
Watch the originalFathers grieving miscarriage should resist shifting into caregiver/task mode and instead grieve openly alongside their wives, because only they can fill that role — no one else can substitute for it (applies to fathers of any age).
Key takeaways
Miscarriage grief recurs at milestones for decades — it's not a single event
Miscarriage grief recurs at milestones for decades — it's not a single event
- Due dates, first birthdays, school enrollment, weddings — each triggers fresh grief for the life that would have been
- Eric cites a 100-year-old aunt who first disclosed five miscarriages in her late 90s, still grieving children never born
Don't ask 'how's your wife?' — ask the dad directly how he's doing
Don't ask 'how's your wife?' — ask the dad directly how he's doing
- Well-meaning friends defaulted to asking about the wife, leaving grieving dads feeling invisible
- The few who grabbed the dad by the shoulders and asked 'what's going on in you?' had outsized impact
Weeping without feeling God's presence isn't a faith failure — Jesus modeled it
Weeping without feeling God's presence isn't a faith failure — Jesus modeled it
- Jesus wept at Lazarus's tomb and sweated blood in Gethsemane — not from sin or weak faith, but from genuine grief
- Hematidrosis (blood through sweat ducts) indicates Jesus' physical stress response was extreme — raw grief is compatible with perfect faith
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In this video
- 1mEpisode Intro
- 2mIntroducing Eric Schumacher and his ministry to fathers
- 3mMark shares his family’s miscarriage story
- 7mIsolation, lies, and how grief affects men differently
- 10mWhy men need support too—and how to offer it
- 18mThe common experiences of miscarriage
- 20mHow to help a dad through miscarriage
- 26mHow long should I be grieving?
- 33mDifferent unexpected grief scenarios
- 41mUnderstanding suffering in the Christian life
- 46mHow to be a good friend to men who have lost a baby
- 52mMore about Eric's ministry
“You've rejoiced in this baby together. You should grieve this baby together.”
— Eric Shoemaker
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