How To Actually Train Your Kids (With Examples) with Grant and Kelly Stine — Key Takeaways
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How To Actually Train Your Kids (With Examples) with Grant and Kelly Stine
The Family Teams Podcast35mApr 24, 2025
Watch the originalTeaching children a single named routine (like "leave routine": shoes, water, bathroom check, buddy check) eliminates the need for repeated individual commands and delivers the highest ROI of any training investment, applicable from age 2 onward.
Key takeaways
Train one behavior at a time across all kids simultaneously — not multiple behaviors or one child at a time
Train one behavior at a time across all kids simultaneously — not multiple behaviors or one child at a time
- Steins tried training multiple behaviors at once and found it overwhelming for kids and untrackable for parents — switching to one shared target fixed this.
- Using a 'demonstrate, drill, defend' sequence with a marble reward system, their first successful training took only weeks.
Train routines with one command instead of issuing repeated individual instructions
Train routines with one command instead of issuing repeated individual instructions
- Family with 5 kids replaced 'get shoes, fill water, use bathroom' commands with one phrase: 'leave routine' — kids execute the full sequence independently.
- Grant calls trained routines the highest ROI of anything they've done; older kids then help younger ones, compounding the effect.
Daily family greeting phrases train sibling unity and team identity more effectively than conflict resolution alone
Daily family greeting phrases train sibling unity and team identity more effectively than conflict resolution alone
- Steins' kids say 'I like you, I love you, I'm glad you're on my team' to each other daily — their 5-year-old initiates it unprompted.
- Sibling conflicts are required to end with a hug and the phrase, reinforcing team identity rather than just resolving the immediate dispute.
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In this video
- 1mIntro
- 3mDiscipline vs. Training
- 9mEarly Wins In Child Training
- 14mThe First Thing We Successfully Trained
- 18mIf You Think It Sounds Like Too Much Work...
- 24mTrain Transitions
- 29mGuardrails For Peace and Freedom
- 31mTrain Values
“The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places.”
— Kelly Stein
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