The Secret to Raising Well-Behaved Kids - Part 2 — Key Takeaways
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The Secret to Raising Well-Behaved Kids - Part 2
Abraham's Wallet49mMay 14, 2025
Watch the originalTeaching children just two skills — "no" (self-control) and "come/obey" (responding to commands) — increases their odds of success across all life domains by roughly 100x, and obedient adults earn up to 15% more income according to a 2018 Journal of Economic Psychology study.
Key takeaways
The 'training game' (ages 2–7) builds obedience into a habit kids will beg to repeat
The 'training game' (ages 2–7) builds obedience into a habit kids will beg to repeat
- Give 3 short timed assignments per night (~10 min); reward completion with praise and small treat.
- Complexity scales with age — 2-year-old touches a doorknob; 7-year-old executes a 4-step memory task.
Teach 'come' at 12 months: stop any activity and return to parent on command
Teach 'come' at 12 months: stop any activity and return to parent on command
- Builds on 'no' training — 'no' suppresses impulse; 'come' initiates obedience to a direct command.
- Practice in multiple settings (home, park, playground) so the skill transfers, not just performs at home.
Teach 'no' at 6 months: 5 minutes a day for 2 weeks establishes parental authority early
Teach 'no' at 6 months: 5 minutes a day for 2 weeks establishes parental authority early
- Child learns: parent is in charge, impulses have limits, compliance earns praise — three foundational lessons from one drill.
- Once learned, you can tour any new environment and label 'yes' and 'no' objects rather than childproofing the space.
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In this video
- 1mIntro
- 3mThe Importance of Obedience
- 6mEarly Church Fathers on Child Training
- 15mResults of Learning No
- 17mBalancing Relationships and Parenting Styles
- 24mTeach a Child to Come
- 31mSpiritual Ramifications
- 36mThe Training Game
- 43mRepentance and Starting Over
- 45mFinancial Implications of Child Training
“Let thy child's first lesson be obedience. And the second may be whatever thou wilt.”
— Charles Spurgeon
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